What do you want to be when you grow up?
Thursday, February 25th, 2010By Robyn Logan
“The next time you see somebody driving a Ferrari, don’t think this is somebody who is greedy, think this is somebody who is incredibly vulnerable and in need of love.”
Alain de Botton: A kinder, gentler philosophy of success
The quote above is from de Botton’s TED talk from TED Global 2009. In his allotted 20 minutes he examined our ideas of success and failure - and questioned the assumptions underlying these two judgments. For him the Ferrari driver is an example of the way people’s motivations for material success often come from external cultural forces rather than from within.
My parents wanted me to do law, the career counselor at my school thought dental nursing or teaching would be ideal because I was “good with people” and my teachers didn’t care so long as it was a ‘profession’ of some sort. So when I announced I was not taking up my university offer, but rather taking my backpack and traveling the world instead I was met with strong resistance from all quarters. I look back at the disapproval that surrounded my decision and I am surprised I actually went through with it. But travel I did, for 2 years, before finally coming back and enrolling in film school.
Of course I didn’t become a filmmaker even though I loved every bit of the course. Instead I spent time in a range of occupations before finally starting up my first business, then my second, then my third. And the rest as they say is history. But I look back at those early years and wonder what would have happened if I were asked some powerful coaching questions instead of being “guided”?
- What makes me happy?
- What do I define as success?
- What are my strengths?
- What excites and inspires me?
Perhaps if the focus had been less on getting me into a respectable profession and more on finding myself, I would have gotten where I am now a whole lot sooner. Then again maybe not, after all success for me is more of a process than an outcome.
One thing is for sure, it is never too late to “start again” As this anonymous quote says:
“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”
What would your brand new start look like? Maybe instead of working in a career you’ve fallen into, or one your parents wanted for you, ask yourself the following questions:
1. What makes you happy?
2. What do you define as success?
3. What are your strengths?
4. What excites and inspires you?
And in case you are wondering, I dressed up as a bride; which was an amused and ironic statement about the difference between what I had wanted and what everyone else had wanted for me. But I must say my favorite outfit of the night was the woman who came with no costume at all, but a big red smile drawn on her face. And when asked the question “What did you want to be when you grew up” she simply said “happy!”
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